“I Don’t Need A Man, But I Desire To Have
One….So Why Am I Single?”
Have you met this woman?
|“Why Am I Single?”|
Or maybe you know this woman!
|“Lord….Why Am I Single?”|
Or how about the community activist?
|“Of All People, Why Am I Single?”|
Linear thinking, self-reliance, structured goals and direct actions on getting the job done, whether in organizing the church, promoting social club activities, or placing oneself in a position for a raise or a promotion….”ARE JUST THAT!!“
However, relationship-building requires a whole different set of skills and requirements altogether. It requires making decisions that are NOT only gratify to you, but also making decisions that are very satisfactory to your partner as well. Black women it means thatsometimes you may be required to do the things that will keep the peace rather than achieve the goal. And sometimes it may even require you to take the high-road and create the peace in the first place.
Maintaining a harmonious relationship will NOT always allow you to take the straight and narrow road between two points. Sistahs, sometimes you may have to stoop in order to conquer, or sometimes you may be required to yield in order to win.
The saddest thing regarding many Black women today is that many of them have been mentally conditioned by feminism and mainstream society to embrace a very destructive,anti-man attitude.
By that I mean feminism has taught most of them that in order to be “PRO-WOMAN” they have to become “ANTI-MAN”. Feminism has also mentally conditioned multitudes of Blackwomen today that a woman (namely a self-sufficient, professional Black woman) isweak, oppressed and very passive to a man especially if she makes a conscious decision to take good care of him in the more traditional ways that most women were taught to by their (traditional) mothers, grandmothers and or aunts in the past.
In other words, professional or career-oriented women today who strongly desire to learn how to cook for their husbands and who strongly desire to take very good care of his home as well as his children in more traditional ways are frowned upon, and in many casesscorned by today’s contemporary feminist Black women.
Traditional Black women today (professional or nonprofessional) are classified as beingweak, passive, old-fashion and very outdated by modern-day feminist Black women. They are NOT classified as strong, nor are they considered independent.
Today’s feminists foolishly believe something is definitely wrong with wanting to be a “traditional” family-oriented Black woman.
Black woman, in too many cases when dealing with Black men you will have to sometimes sacrifice being right in order to enjoy being loved.
For Example: Being acknowledged as the head of the household is an especially important thing for many Black men today since their manhood is actively challenged everywhere else. It does not matter to him that you earn $10 more a week than him. Not at all!!!
Unfortunately, many modern day, “single and seeking” Black women have been mentally conditioned to automatically claim head-of the-household simply because they earn a few dollars more a week than their male companion. As a result, many of these same Blackwomen incite catastrophic power struggles with their men on a daily basis. And because many Black women today embrace that destructive (feminist) mentality, many of them failto sustain healthy relationships. As a result, most of them go on to become so independent, so self-sufficient, so committed to the cause, to their church, to their careers and even to their own narrow individual concepts that their entire personalities project an:
“I DON’T NEED A MAN” ATTITUDE!”
So they end up without one!!!!