The Child Support System Hurts Black Families

Today it’s time to expose the child support system for what it is, not for what it said it was. Any time any program, agency or system seems to be promoted as a great thing without the other side being exposed, watch out! The very system they say was set up to help children and struggling custodial parents actually hurt quite a few families in many ways. Does DCSS also help families? Yes, it does. But that does not mean we should ignore the other side of the coin when the child support monster hurts men, women, and children. These are the many cases swept under the rug, under gag orders and kept from the public. 

BEFORE YOU HAVE SEX WITH ANY WOMAN, ASK YOURSELF IF YOU COULD DEAL WITH  THE RESULTS FOR 18 YEARS IF SHE GOT PREGNANT AND HAD YOUR CHILD

Before we get deep into the hidden truth, yes I have children – now adults. Not children from multiple women either. If you want to know how well I have taken care of my children, don’t ask their trifling, evil, vindictive mom. Don’t ask DCSS. Ask my children. My children are priceless and they are my bloodline for the future, my legacy. They know first-hand how I took care of them. They also know the Hell I went through at the hands of a dark, evil, biased and corrupt child support system supported by satan’s right-hand woman.

FIGHT THE CORRUPT DCSS SYSTEM AS YOU WOULD FIGHT A HOME INVADER

But through it all, I never gave up, I never ran away and I fought with everything within me. I still help my children today every way I can (even before they ask), because in my book, a parent is a parent for life and I do unto them as I would have them do unto me. Your fathers in peril have to fight the system and do the same. Moms of low character and the system will try to break you but don’t let them. Ever. And if you want to get back at an evil X, the best way is to take care of your children, be the bigger person, move on, find a good woman and live a happy and successful life. I did and you can too but first, you have to fight the system. That will disturb your X to no end. Good.

I could point to case after case after case where DCSS and the mom as a custodial parent violated the court order, but they were never censored nor punished as the fathers would be if they had done the same thing. I could tell you of numerous cases where the rights of the father as the non-custodial parent were violated time and time again, even to the detriment of financial support for the child.

THE MORE UNFAIRNESS THE FATHER ENCOUNTERS FROM DCSS, THE MORE HE REACTS AND RESPONDS TO DCSS AND THE MOM WHO PLACED HIM ON IT BECAUSE SHE KNOWS IT IS UNFAIR

I could show you cases where almost every element of the child support machine focused so hard on punishing the father that they completely lost sight of what they claimed was their mission – to put the children first. I could tell you of recording after recording caught on tape of the child support machine using bullying, coercion, guilt, fear and intimidation to force men to comply. I could even make you privy to case after case where DCSS case workers tricked fathers, knowingly made false promises then had the men escorted out of the building by armed security. You have no idea.

MOTIVES OF THE CHILD SUPPORT MACHINE:

The child support machine-system-monster has several parts. DCSS is only one of those parts. DCSS may be the teeth that chew men up and spit them out daily, but the machine has many more parts, sometimes just as deadly to fathers all over America. Feminist man-hater groups are another part of the machine. Judges with prejudicial, stereotypical biases against fathers and who cannot keep personal agendas off the bench are another part of the machine.

Female parents who caused the very problems contributing to broken homes in the first place are part of the child support machine. Little boys who think they are real men are part of the machine. Fathers who refuse to stand up for their rights, fight the system or work together in these efforts are part of the machine. Punk coward men who help DCSS destroy fathers are part of the machine. Attorneys who make men pay as much as possible and yet get very few results in favor of those men are part of the machine too. And it’s time all of the above were exposed.

Child support services are not as much about the children as they make themselves out to be. They do serve a function but not as much as you think. And their bias only makes it hard on the entirely family, not just the men. Because child support services get paid from all the money the collect for the custodial parent, such services are a profit-making business just as much as a help to children. That is why they don’t give the non-custodial parent credit for any payments, cash or paid expenses for the child when DCSS cannot get its cut. Thus they make men pay them, not just for the child. And ironically, the agency that makes men pay them also then works largely against them.

A FATHER WHO DOES NOT KNOW HIS RIGHTS IS A SITTING DUCK

Oh sure DCSS case agents will give you the sob story about the kids who have to suffer. And in many cases the stories are true. But that’s not why DCSS is telling you that. They play the violins because that’s what they are taught in class to do and tell you, regardless of how the mom spends the money. And guess what? They almost never lay the guilt trip on her when the money is not used for the children. DCSS says what they do because they want you to pay so they can get paid. And if the children need the money so badly, why does DCSS take a cut? Then employers can also charge for processing the transaction on their end. Everybody seems to want a cut but the children are the focus right? Wrong.

IN SOME CASES, A MALE NON-CUSTODIAL PARENT CAN PAY $400 A MONTH WHILE THE CHILD ONLY RECEIVES $50 OF THE $400? OH YES, IT’S VERY TRUE! IT’S CALLED A “DISREGARD”.

Oh yes it’s about the money for the child support system just as much if not more than it is about the children. Don’t let DCSS fool you with all their BS rhetoric. Not only do they charge fees that take from the money they say the child so desperately needs, they also charge interest on unpaid amounts (arrears). Yet it is like brain surgery to get them to adjust their errors and give the non-custodial any money back ever. So if you are overcharged, expect to be stuck between losing that money forever and paying an attorney so much to feed the system that you lose that way as well. READ WHAT YOU SIGN AND UNDERSTAND IT! I have seen cases where men have paid attorneys $50,000 and more, only to still lose their case at the hands of bias judges or judges afraid of feminist groups camouflaging themselves as women’s rights groups. I have seen good attorneys and those who play games with your life.

WHY MANY MEN FIGHT CHILD SUPPORT:

The system is intentionally unbalanced and biased against men. Did you know the same sources they use to make men the culprits also show a lot more about women as custodial parents than anybody ever let’s get out. Over 95% of the time women are given the children based on the assumption that they “belong”  with the women. Yet when the numbers of custodial parents are looked at equally, did you know that women have a higher rate of abuse against the children than men do? Did you know that when the numbers are equal, for example taking 1,000 men as custodial parents and 1,000 women as custodial parents, the women have a higher rate of NOT paying child support? These are the facts they never tell you about. Why not? Because the truth would correct the record.

WHY NO TALK OF THE DEADBEAT MOMS – CUSTODIAL AND NON-CUSTODIAL?

Many men want to pay child support but they object to the unfair treatment they receive from the child support system, the courts, he caseworkers, the DCSS office. And the real facts are hidden in order to shape public opinion against the male parents and for the female parents, regardless of the truth. So what does DCSS do along with the man-hating feminists, bi-polar and hateful women who are miserable because their X’s are happier without them? Promote the narrative of irresponsible fathers everywhere who don’t want to take care of their children. Yet this narrative is promoted to build support against men everywhere without regard for the real facts and the differences in one case from the other. Stereotyping the fathers as the “bad guys” has become the norm and women are almost always painted as the “innocent victims” left to fend for themselves.

ENCOURAGEMENT FOR MEN

The child support machine, system, racket monster can be beaten. Men have beaten it, men who love their children and want to take care of them. Men who beat the “child support system monster” without going broke, going to jail or being homeless in the process. I know this for a fact, though men winning is not common – it is not impossible. But you are going to have to read and research, choose attorneys wisely and not expect the attorneys to tell you everything they know. Nor should you expect them to stand up for every right that you have. Why not? Because the more they win, embarrass and expose the system, the harder it will be for those attorneys to keep practicing law. Thus many attorneys will go with the flow, charge you as much as they can and win some or lose some in order to maintain their relationship with the judicial system. Sometimes “sacrificing” their clients in the process.

FATHERS HAVE A CONSTITUTIONAL RIGHT OF EQUAL PROTECTION UNDER THE LAW

Do your homework. Speak to other fathers who have found real solutions the system won’t tell you about. Have paralegals prepare your paperwork for filing. Screen and compare attorneys and their track records in getting results for fathers. And don’t just go by the track record they present when you can also go online and find feedback on them. select attorneys who get results, and not just after you have gone broke in the process. But realize that attorneys who specialize in child support also make money based on conflict. Conflict pays because the parents are so busy fighting through their attorneys that they fail to realize what can sometimes be resolved better and more peacefully without them. And I have never, ever understood why attorneys are referred to as “counselors” – a sick joke.

FIND OUT THE LAWS IN YOUR STATE FOR RECORDING AND IF YOU ARE ALLOWED BY LAW, COVERTLY RECORD YOUR MEETINGS WITH DCSS USING YOUR CELL PHONE

Remember, DCSS does not care about your children nor about fairness and equality nor about right and wrong. They care about doing what the legislators tell them to do. And these punk men who help them are weak cowards who work against their own gender for a buck. DCSS cares about collecting their administrative fees and interest payments. They care about stereotyping men just as the courts do. But if you give them good reason to do so, that is your fault. So while you man-up to take care of your children, do not expect DCSS to hold the woman accountable – demand it.

SOME JUDGES HAVE EVEN RULED CHILD SUPPORT THROUGH DCSS TO BE UNCONSTITUTIONAL                       BUT THE SUPREME COURT QUICKLY AND UNFAIRLY CANCELLED THEN  OUT

The DCSS child support system hurts the entire family. It stereotypes men as the bad guys and women as the innocent victims. It helps the mothers more than it does the fathers, so it lacks fundamental fairness. And that is a constitutional rights violation of men’s rights for equal protection under the law. DCSS actions and policies are influenced by man-hating feminists and judges who are biased. It works against even the men who are honestly trying.

SORRY FATHERS ARE AWFUL – BUT A SYSTEM THAT PUNISHES, MISTREATS, BULLIES AND                                             UNFAIRLY STEREOTYPES ALL OR MOST OF US IS JUST AS BAD

DCSS makes excuses for the woman while shaming, blaming and making the man feel guilty. DCSS uses lies, tricks and tactics to get the man to pay. By legal definition, DCSS uses bullying, punishment and coercion tactics against the fathers. DCSS ignores the statistics that expose the truth about deadbeat women and women who abuse the system. DCSS does not factor in how the mother uses the money nor hold her accountable for it – again being unfair to the father who is held accountable. And when fathers go against this corrupt, biased system, DCSS makes it seem like the fathers are deadbeats who just don’t want to take care of their children.

A FATHER WHO PLACES HIMSELF IN FRONT OF HIS CHILDREN IS JUST A SPERM DONOR

How does taking the driver’s or professional license of a man in arrears but paying and trying to catch up actually help the child? it doesn’t. How does forcing the father into poverty while the mother spend the money however she likes help the children? It doesn’t. How does DCSS failing to give the man credit for all he pays outside f them help the children? It doesn’t. Even in many cases, how is it fair for the courts to make men pay for children who have been proven not to be theirs? And yes that happens more than you might think. Oh yes, fathers take care of your children but FIGHT THE SYSTEM, a system that would ruin you if it could. And in the process, learn to make the system work for you. It’s very possible!

DON’T RUN FROM THE DCSS SYSTEM BECAUSE IT IS LIKE A PITBULL WITH RABIES

So fathers take care of your children but fight the system. Fight the power. Fight the unfairness, the bias, the coercion and the stereotypes. Fight in court. Fight any and every lawful way you can but FIGHT! Because every time you just bend over and take it, your rights become weaker and weaker. And one day you may wake up and not have any.

CHILD SUPPORT IS CALCULATED ON A GROSS INCOME EVEN THOUGH THE GOVERNMENT TAKES  OUT TAXES! SINCE THEY TAKE YOUR MONEY, WHY DON’T THEY PAY CHILD SUPPORT ON THAT?

Don’t overpay attorney. and screen them carefully because many of them are in on the game. Use a legal service for consultations and document preparation to save money. If you ask the right questions while you have the attorney on the phone, you may avoid headache and wasting time and money in court . But whatever you do, fight for your rights, fight to be treated fairly instead of being stereotyped. Use your head. Keep it lawful and think smart. Do your research and don’t expect an attorney to tell you all your options. The ball is more in your court than you think – if you prepare yourself, But if you don’t then expect to be at a disadvantage, out of a lot of money and maybe even in jail.

The Results Of Women That Grew Up Without Fathers

A fatherless daughter can be defined as a woman who grew up without a father in her life, a father who was physically present (alive), but emotionally absent. As a result of this she struggles with issues of abandonment, emptiness and the feeling of being unloved or unwanted.
“The role of father is to teach his daughter how to be in a non-sexual, intimate relationship with a man,” says life coach Iyanla Vanzant. In fact, it’s the first relationship a daughter has with a man and therefore teaches her how a woman should be treated. However, if dad leaves, Vanzant explains that the daughter lacks that healthy model and often seeks to fill that void in a variety of ways.
While some women may disagree with this and feel as if the absence of their father in their lives had little or no impact on them, if they were to really look they would see its impact manifested in many forms. These range from being promiscuous, seeking validation in all the wrong places, being too clingy, too defensive, or having a fear of rejection. Afraid of commitment, this woman doesn’t let men get too close to her, becoming emotionally cold or withdrawn.
Her sense of self will be tainted, and no matter how pretty, vibrant, lovable, funny, or intelligent she may seem, her self-confidence is damaged or non-existent.


Anyone who grew up without a father knows what pain and struggle it is to walk around with a broken heart caused by the one man who helped to bring you in this world. But the pain can be healed and your broken heart mended if you:
1. Acknowledge one simple phrase, “Daddy’s gone”, says Vanzant.
2. Take ownership for your actions by not blaming your father’s absence for how your life turned out.
3. Let go of the past.
4. Forgive yourself for the things you told yourself such as, “You were not important to your father”, “you were too ugly for him to love” or “you were too black for him to love”, etc.
5. Forgive your father for not knowing how his absence would affect you, as chances are he was a fatherless son who didn’t know how to be a father.

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Black women in many ways are like water

People have polluted us and poisoned the life within us. Yet we’re still strong. We forge a new path when needed, and provide life to all. Everyone drinks from us. There’s nothing in the world more powerful. We’re harmonious and peaceful like the waves when treated correctly. Yet rambunctious and obstreperous, like a tsunami when mistreated. There’s a calming strength in us, that can’t be duplicated.

 

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14 Unexpected Things That Make Women Want To Have Sex

For many men, the reasons a woman might want to have sex are a mystery. They spend hours pondering the web looking for reasons a woman’s sex drive might be do them the good service of running hot when next they meet.
The truth is, there isn’t a whole lot to it. Scientifically, women are just as easy to make horny as men, and the different reasons that we find ourselves eager to have sex with someone aren’t that different from men’s.
So here are 14 things that make a woman want to have sex with you. Some may shock you … others may not.
1. You’re there at the right moment 
She’s out for a night on the town after a recent breakup, or she’s horny as hell as looking for some dick. Whatever the reason, you just happened to luck out big town.
2. You’re great at body language 
You spent the day communicating with her, not just with your words, but with what your mama gave you. That’s right, body language if done right can make a woman wet and ready.
3. You’re who she’s into 
Yeah, I know. Shocker. Hold on to your butts. Etc. If a woman’s into you, she’s eager at the prospect of boning you. Sometimes it’s just that simple.
4. You’re good at flattery 
If you’ve been complimenting her in a non-creepy way, she’s sure to be feeling more relaxed and at ease which makes letting go and enjoying a bedroom romp that much more likely.
5. You’ve got a body she digs
Sometimes a woman likes you, sometimes she likes your body. I’m not saying you’ve got to have a six pack, whatever your body type is, if she’s into it, she’s into it and that’s hot.
6. You’re a good kisser
Nothing makes a woman more open to the idea of sleeping with a guy than his abilities as a kisser. Kisses are the only insight you get into a guy’s potential bedroom prowess, after all. A good one is worth its weight in gold. And sex.
7. You’re someone she wants to demonstrate affection towards
That might sound kind of cold, but demonstrating how much we care about someone through affection is a definite reason women decide to have sex. It doesn’t mean we’re not totally into it, either.
8. You’re great at giving her space
Absence makes the heart grow fonder and the vagina hornier. Give her room to miss you and she’s more likely to be ready for a hot sex session when next you meet.
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9. You’re great at talking about sex
If you’re adept at talking about sex without coming off like a creep (again, lack of creepiness in general is a great rule) it can absolutely inspire a woman to feel more turned on and eager to hit the hay.
10. You’re consistent 
You’re in a good mood, you’re trustworthy, she doesn’t expect you to lose your cool at any moment, these things make a woman feel safe and calm and when she feels safe and calm wanting to jump is not far behind.
11. You’re in the right environment 
When it comes to feeling sexy, the mood is everything. If you’re some place with a romantic vibe, be on high alert, the vibe of a place can work wonders on a woman’s sex drive.
12. You’ve made her curious 
Women go through periods in their life of intense sexual exploration. If you find yourself with a woman who is keen to play and explore, this could be exactly what’s got her so turned on.
13. You’re their when she’s NOT game for sex
You call her when you know her day has been rough, you send her playful texts throughout the week, you’re there for her in a non-sexual way which makes you even more attractive to her.
14. You’re good at a scare 
Taking her on a roller coaster or to see a scary movie, these are all things that will get her blood pumping and turn her on, plus these activities are also fun as hell.
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What Happened To The Strong Black Father Figure?

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During the 1970s there was a very popular TV show that all African Americans loved. The show was about a poor Black family living in a housing project on the South Side of Chicago. But what made the show so very enjoyable to watch (in my opinion) was the fact that there was a “Strong, Black Father Figure” in the home who loved his family and who was indeed in total command and authority over the trials and tribulations, as well as the struggles they were to overcome as an under-privileged family living in the projects.

Actor John Amos was very talented in his role as a “Strong Black Father Figure” who although poor, portrayed a man of pride, honor, virtue, honesty and integrity. He also loved his Afro wearing wife and all of his children; including his oldest son J.J. who was the somewhat very immature, buffoonish comedian of the family. This Black father refused to let society’s woes entrap and discourage him and his beloved family!!! For those of you who are unaware of the show I’m making reference to, the name of the show was called……. 
                                                   Good Times!

The show’s tragedy was that Hollywood once again reared its ugly head and stepped in and destroyed this “Strong Black Father image“. Unfortunately, James Evans Sr’s character was removed from the show because of the shows producers, writers and directors growing emphasis on the “silly buffoonery” of the elder son; played by professional comedian Jimmy Walker.
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So as a result and in stereotypical fashion, James Evans Sr’s character of a “Strong Black Father Figure” and role model was killed in the show and their family became the now proverbial “Single Mother, African American Household”.
And by the way, it is no coincidence that this occurred during the 1970’s just when Feminism was taking root in American society, therefore the role of “Strong Black Father Figure” quickly became obsolete and was seen as being totally “out of character” according to those who control Hollywood.

This TV show was the first and only “real African American family that had been portrayed in all realness since the television was invented in the 1950s!!!!

Why was the “Strong Black Father Figure” removed from one of America’s most realistic, popular African American sitcoms? Was it just another ploy to destroy the Strong Black Father image in America while at the same time promoting Feminism within the African American Community?

                                                   All comments are welcome!
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Why Are So Many Quality Black Women Single Today? Part 1

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“I Don’t Need A Man, But I Desire To Have 
One….So Why Am I Single?”

Today there’s a very significant number of professional Black women who have positioned themselves for success with BA’s,MD’s, as well as PHD’s…..but unfortunately, 70% of them are still without the more elusive title:
                “MRS.”
Besides losing hordes of Black men towomen from other races, besides losing Black men as a result of the 1.1 million Black men who are currently incarcerated, and besides losing Black men to the down-low(homosexual) lifestyle as well as the ever increasing homicide rate among Black men today, there are other major factors that are keeping more and more Black women single now than ever before…..
                                 

     Have you met this woman?

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“Why Am I Single?”
She has a great job, works very hard and she earns six figures annually. She has NO children, she’s baggage-free, and she’s in total control of her own life. She went to college, studied very hard to obtain her degree(s). She’s very attractive, very intelligent, verypersonable, articulate, well versed and seems very interested in everybody and everything……..But yet she’s SINGLE!



Or maybe you know this woman!

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“Lord….Why Am I Single?”
She’s very active in the church. She’s very faithful and totally committed. She sings in the choir, serves on the usher board, and attends every church function and every committee meeting. She Loves the Lord and knows Scripture. You’d think that with her keen knowledge of the Scriptures and the respect of her church members she’d have a marriage made in Heaven……But once again, NO HUSBAND!

                            Or how about the community activist?

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“Of All People, Why Am I Single?”
She’s a Black lady, or as she would prefer you to call her, a Strong, Independent, African American woman on the move. She may be sportin a short natural; or sometimes cornrow braids or perhaps even locked hair. She’s a wonderful community organizer, a greatmotivator and a cultural dynamo.
Her work for Black people speaks volumes for itself–organizing women for self-help,raising funds for a community cause and educating many others regarding new political, economical and social needs in the surrounding neighborhoods. Many Black folks look up to her while white folks know she’s a force to be reckoned with…..But again, this quality African American woman is NOT MARRIED!
      “What do ALL of these women have in common?”
These Sistahs seem to have so much going on for themselves; so what could they be lacking? Why is it they may be able to hook a man but neither of them can seem to hold a man? A great multitude of successful, single and seeking African American women today (70%) ponder over this question on a daily basis. They gather at beauty salons, fitness centers, singles retreats, women’s blogs and together over a cup of coffee at the office wondering……
                        “What’s wrong with Black men?”
They hold special prayer vigils and fast and pray and beg Jesus to send the Black men back to church. They may occasionally experience some quality Brothas attending Church functions, political rallies, or participating in protests and or other community functions, but when it’s time to go home, those quality Brothas all go home to someone else.
After asking over and over again “What’s wrong with Black men?” It never ever dawned on many of the above Black women to ask themselves….
                                    “What’s wrong with us Black women?”
What I have found out and what many of today’s Black women have yet to discover, is that….
“THE SKILLS AND QUALIFICATIONS THAT MAKE A WOMAN VERY SUCCESSFUL IN THE WORKPLACE, IN THE CHURCH AND IN THE COMMUNITY ARE NOT THE SAME SKILLS REQUIRED TO MAKE A WOMAN VERY SUCCESSFUL IN A RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE!”  
“LADIES, PLEASE UNDERSTAND….HIGHER EDUCATION OR A GREAT PAYING JOB “DOES NOT” ENTITLE YOU TO A GOOD MAN, NOR DOES IT ENTITLE YOU TO A “PERFECT” RELATIONSHIP!
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Linear thinking, self-reliance, structured goals and direct actions on getting the job done, whether in organizing the church, promoting social club activities, or placing oneself in a position for a raise or a promotion….”ARE JUST THAT!!

However, relationship-building requires a whole different set of skills and requirements altogether. It requires making decisions that are NOT only gratify to you, but also making decisions that are very satisfactory to your partner as well. Black women it means thatsometimes you may be required to do the things that will keep the peace rather than achieve the goal. And sometimes it may even require you to take the high-road and create the peace in the first place.

Maintaining a harmonious relationship will NOT always allow you to take the straight and narrow road between two points. Sistahs, sometimes you may have to stoop in order to conquer, or sometimes you may be required to yield in order to win.

The saddest thing regarding many Black women today is that many of them have been mentally conditioned by feminism and mainstream society to embrace a very destructive,anti-man attitude.

By that I mean feminism has taught most of them that in order to be “PRO-WOMAN” they have to become “ANTI-MAN”. Feminism has also mentally conditioned multitudes of Blackwomen today that a woman (namely a self-sufficient, professional Black woman) isweak, oppressed and very passive to a man especially if she makes a conscious decision to take good care of him in the more  traditional ways that most women were taught to by their (traditional) mothers, grandmothers and or aunts in the past.

In other words, professional or career-oriented women today who strongly desire to learn how to cook for their husbands and who strongly desire to take very good care of his home as well as his children in more traditional ways are frowned upon, and in many casesscorned by today’s contemporary feminist Black women.

Traditional Black women today (professional or nonprofessional) are classified as beingweak, passive, old-fashion and very outdated by modern-day feminist Black women. They are NOT classified as strong, nor are they considered independent.

Today’s feminists foolishly believe something is definitely wrong with wanting to be a “traditional” family-oriented Black woman.

Black woman, in too many cases when dealing with Black men you will have to sometimes sacrifice being right in order to enjoy being loved.

For Example: Being acknowledged as the head of the household is an especially important thing for many Black men today since their manhood is actively challenged everywhere else. It does not matter to him that you earn $10 more a week than him. Not at all!!!

Unfortunately, many modern day, “single and seeking” Black women have been mentally conditioned to automatically claim head-of the-household simply because they earn a few dollars more a week than their male companion. As a result, many of these same Blackwomen incite catastrophic power struggles with their men on a daily basis. And because many Black women today embrace that destructive (feminist) mentality, many of them failto sustain healthy relationships. As a result, most of them go on to become so independent, so self-sufficient, so committed to the cause, to their church, to their careers and even to their own narrow individual concepts that their entire personalities project an:

                        “I DON’T NEED A MAN” ATTITUDE!”

                              So they end up without one!!!!

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