“…. my love for her is not physical, but transcendent and all-inclusive… she is the only woman i have ever thought of loving…”
~ Malcolm X (speaking on his love for Betty Shabazz)
“Malcolm was the greatest thing in my life and he taught me what every female ought to learn: to live and to love as a woman, to be true to myself and my responsibilities as a mother. And to use my spiritual, material, and intellectual capacities to help build a better human society.”
~ Betty Shabazz (on being married to Malcolm X)
“The kind of person a woman is, her character, her desires, aspirations and dreams, her interpretation of reality, are all reflected in the man she chooses as her complement. When a woman chooses a man, and consistently works with him to remove all doubt as to his power, she is giving birth to a vision of her whole power. Without woman there is no man, biologically, emotionally, intellectually or spiritually. It is in women that men see their reflection and are able to determine if they measure up to what they desire to be. Just as Afrikan women are defined and measured by their grandfathers, fathers and brothers, Afrikan men are defined and measured by their grandmothers, mothers, wives and sisters. This is not a complaint, as some of the more insecure among us would argue. It is a compliment, and a divine one at that. When a woman is doing her work, the man she has selected as her complement, who operates within the traditions of our Ancestors, naturally develops in relation to her defensive, survival and emotional needs. If he is truly her man, he evolves in accordance with how she exercises her power. And he sees no threat to his manhood in creating a fence around her garden as strong and secure as she needs it to be. In fact, if he is indeed a man, he takes great pride in serving the woman who reflects his highest ideal.